Sexual Wellness & Pleasure-Based Products and Devices
As a disabled person, it can be hard to find devices that are inclusively designed, have accessible packaging, and meet our unique needs.
I’ve put together a list of wellness products and toys I recommend both from an Occupational Therapy and disabled person perspective to help you start your exploration of self and sexuality.
I’ve included some other universal and eco-conscious products in this array as well.
Promote your sexual wellness.
Your own way.
Sexual Wellness Products and Devices
Dilators
Silicone Vaginal Dilator
Set of 5
These vaginal dilators have silky smooth silicone tapered tips which make for easy insertion and comfort. There are 5 sizes making transitions between sizes gradual, and the bases are wide making for better grip. Use with water-based lubricant.
Who this might be for: vaginismus, hypertonic pelvic floor
Silicone Anal Dilator Set of 3
A set of 3 anal plugs made of platinum-cured silicone. Each has a tapered tip with a tighter neck. The set of 3 allows the user to gradually move up as they become comfortable with the size. Use with water-based lubricant.
Who this might be for: anal play beginners, those with hypertonic pelvic floor
Silicone Vaginal Dilator
Set of 6
These dilator sets are pristinely crafted with sleek and silky-smooth silicone and tapered tips that fit TouchBot’s Lattice extension handle. However, TouchBot also offers a separate hand grip version for those who don't require the amount of reach that Lattice (extension handle) provides but who want more leverage and less hand strain when independently inserting the dilator. With 6 dilator sizes, the grading between dilators is even more gradual than traditional dilator sets (which typically come with 3-5 dilators). Use with water-based lubricant.
Who this might be for: vaginismus, hypertonic pelvic floor
Lattice Device Extension Handle
Lattice by TouchBot is one of my favorite creations. It is an Extension Handle that makes pleasure accessible, whether you have a suction toy or purchased a dilator or other attachment through TouchBot. There are two bases for this extension handle—a screw base or a suction base. There are four sizes to choose from. To adjust, simply unscrew the arm and adjust as needed. It’s made of biocompatible composite resin (aka each toy has been handmade) making it super easy to clean and lightweight (10.4 oz).
Who this might be for: For those with limited range of motion
Menstrual Care
Menstrual Cup Kit
An incredibly economical way to begin (or continue) waste-free menstrual care. The Feel Good Cup Kit is a set of (2) medical-grade, silicone cups—a 15 ml cup for lighter days and a 20 ml cup for heavier days. Most other brands sell you ONE cup for 3 to 4 times the price of these TWO! Clean every 12 hours with soap and cool water. After each period, clean, then submerge in boiling water before storing for next use.
Who this might be for: an eco-conscious babe who has adequate pelvic floor tone (neither hyper- nor hypotonic) to support the insertion and holding of a menstrual cup
Flat Fit Menstrual Disc
It’s got all the benefits: silicone, hypoallergenic, flat fit, can be worn during sex, can be worn for up to 12 hours, super thin, and it has a leak-proof double rim. Menstrual Discs are for those who are not shy of getting a little blood on their hands—it is possible! Other, more expensive, disc designs help prevent this, but this design is ultra-thin and barely noticeable.
Who this might be for: Fearless menstruators who want to go about their day and have the dexterity to insert a disc into the vaginal canal; an eco-conscious babe who has adequate pelvic floor tone (neither hyper- nor hypotonic) to support the insertion and holding of a menstrual cup
Pelvic Massage and Tone
Pelvic and Perineal Massage Wand
Made with medical-grade silicone, this uniquely shaped wand helps to relieve trigger points in the pelvic floor muscles, including the most deep and hard to reach obturator internus and puborectalis muscles.
Who this might be for: pelvic floor tightness (hypertonic), perineal massage
Kegel Exercisers
The benefits of Kegel exercises are vast and include relief from incontinence, enhancing sexual pleasure by making orgasms more intense and easier to control and strengthening stretched and weakened pelvic floors post-childbirth. There are 3 variations in weight and shape and a dynamic inner pendulum mechanism, with an outside made of body-safe silicone, making them waterproof and easy to clean.
Who this might be for: Vagina owners with incontinence, pelvic floor weakness
Explore your sexuality.
Your own way.
Pleasure-Based Products and Devices
Protection and Lubricants
Vegan Condoms (Penis)
Made of natural, non-toxic latex that's 35% thinner for maximum comfort for partners. Spermicide-free, sustainably sourced ingredients and 3x tested for safety - have a healthy and enjoyable experience in the bedroom!
Who this might be for: The eco-conscious partners who practice safe sex
Water-Based Lube with Hyaluronic Acid
Experience the deep hydrating benefits of hyaluronic acid - long trusted for skin care and now in its most intimate form as a long-lasting, premium personal lubricant. It's pH-balanced so it won't disrupt the body's natural chemistry. The liquid is iso-osmolar, meaning it won't overhydrate sensitive tissues to the point of irritating or causing dryness by robbing the body of its natural moisture. 1.69 oz.
Who this might be for: Those with sensitive skin who need a long-lasting lubricant that won’t cause irritation
Water-Based Lube
(Hint of Vanilla Lemon)
This slick and lovely water-based lube is made from 95% percent organic ingredients and boasts a loyal following of devotees. With a slight hint of vanilla and lemon, it’s not bad on the taste buds either. Jelly is super gentle on all your sensitive parts and safe for pregnancy. Perfectly safe for use with latex condoms. Glycerin, glycol, and paraben-free, of course. Jelly comes in a 3 oz bottle.
Who this might be for: The eco-conscious, sensitive skin user who doesn’t mind a little flavor in their slide
Lube Launcher (3-Pack)
The Lube Launcher is an excellent tool for anyone looking for a boost of moisture who needs a little support in terms of reach or mobility. Fill it up with your favorite lube, insert, and press down to release. The insertion tube is narrow making it comfortable for vaginal or anal insertion. There are three applicator tips per pack. The simplicity of the design also makes for super easy cleaning!
Who this might be for: Anyone who has limited mobility in their wrists or needs support due to limited reach near the urogenital area for lubricant application.
Gender Neutral
Bendable Vibrator (Suitable for Double Penetration)
This vibrator is ideally suited for… well, everything! It can be bent and shaped for internal or external stimulation. It features 10 speeds and patterns that give you a nice range of intensities to explore.
Who this might be for: Anyone who has limited mobility in their wrists or needs support for reaching the urogenital area for stimulation
Powerful Wand Massager with Handle
This vibrator is ideally suited for… well, everything! It can be bent and shaped for internal or external stimulation. It features 10 speeds and patterns that give you a nice range of intensities to explore.
Who this might be for: Anyone who has limited mobility in their wrists or has limited fine motor dexterity
SIlicone Buffer Set
Avoid deep pain during sex, with these body-safe, hypoallergenic buffer rings that can be used on toys or bodies! They’re doctor-recommended, they retain heat, feel like skin, are condom-compatible, and work best when used with water- or silicone-based lube.
Who this might be for: A vagina-owner with hypo- or hyper-tonic pelvic floor issues; anyone who prefers to control the depth of penetration (device or body part)
Vibrating Anal Plug with Handle
Shimmy is a medium-size vibrating anal plug that allows for hands-free anal stimulation. The best part: It has a handle for easier insertion and removal. It has 5 speeds and 5 patterns, is fully waterproof, made of medical-grade silicone, and is USB rechargeable.
Who this might be for: For those with limited fine motor dexterity (handle loop makes for easier insertion and removal)
Lattice Device Extension Handle
Lattice by TouchBot is one of my favorite creations. It is an Extension Handle that makes pleasure accessible—whether you have a suction toy, or purchased a dilator or other attachment through TouchBot.. There are two bases for this extension handle—a screw base or a suction base. There are four sizes to choose from. To adjust, simply unscrew the arm and adjust as needed. It’s made of biocompatible composite resin (aka each toy has been handmade) making it super easy to clean and lightweight (10.4 oz).
Who this might be for: For those with limited range of motion
Clitoral and Vaginal Play
Dual Stimulation Vibration with Loop Handle
The flexible, external arm (smaller arm) features a strong motor with 7 intensity settings and 5 pattern vibration settings. The internal arm (longer arm) houses a rumble thrusting mechanism that has 5 intensity settings and 5 pattern settings. Two main buttons allow the user to control both functions independently (yup, take your sweet time exploring 120 setting combinations or just go all-in… hah, see what I did there).
Who this might be for: Anyone who has limited mobility in their wrists or needs support for reaching the urogenital area for stimulation
Dual Stimulation
“Snail” Vibrator
This is certainly one of the most unique sex toy designs on the market I’ve seen. This might look like a slide whistle and a snail bumped uglies, but trust: this one packs a punch.
See the part of the vibrator that doesn't have a bulb at the end? That's the internal stimulator. As you thrust it into your vagina to stimulate your G-spot, the external head—that’s the flexible curl that looks like a snail shell—unfurls against your body. The curl itself is just firm enough to keep its super-strong vibrating motor in contact with your vulva and clitoris as you move the device. It's a rabbit vibe reimagined with 5 vibration intensities and 5 patterns in each of its two heads. with the result being something extremely satisfying: Blended orgasms.
Who this might be for: Anyone who has limited mobility in their wrists; for vagina owners and those up for adventurous anal play
Penis Play
Oral Stroker
This will certainly spice things up. This stroker can be worn on the penis for a sleeve-like compression (use lube to slip on) or if that sensory stimulation is too much, around 2-3 fingers in a grasp to recreate the unique pleasure of deepthroat oral sex (solo or with a partner). This stroker is made with body-safe latex and phthalate free making it easy to clean, and comfortable to use.
Who this might be for: Those looking to spice up their oral game, those who need additional support in maintaining erections
Vibrating Stroker
Take control with 10 vibration modes, textured surfaces inside and out, and a versatile design. This stroker is a 3/4 closed design with silicone and up to 70 minutes of pleasure.
Who this might be for: Those looking to spice up their oral game, those who need additional support in maintaining erections
BDSM, Kink, Harnesses, Oh My!
Boxer Brief Harness
The Boundless Boxer Brief Harness is an ultra-comfortable, easy-wear harness designed with powerful performance and comfort in mind. This classic harness has a supportive extra-wide waistband, soft stretchy material, and internal probe straps for the ultimate support. Designed with beginner and expert users in mind, both will love frustration-free pleasure with this easy-to-wear harness. Simply secure your favorite probe, slip into the extra stretchy waist and thigh straps, and dive deep into passionate penetration. The durable, reinforced O-ring stretches to accommodate your favorite packer, vibrator, or dildo. Clean-up is super easy by machine washing and hanging to dry.
Thigh Harness Strap-On
Gender fluid and super easy to strap on. The Thigh Rider Harness uses reinforced velcro to keep your toy in place during all kinds of play. Instead of a thigh, try strapping it to other body parts (like your arm) or even objects (like a pillow). This Harness makes pegging play accessible for all kinds of bodies and abilities.
Sensation Pinwheel
Spike's three rows of pinwheels make it the perfect tool for sensation play or exploring that medical kink of yours. YUP. Originally called a Wartenberg Wheel, this small spikey device was developed to test nerve endings. The long handle allows you to apply pressure as you see fit making this a fun foreplay tool. Remember, play safely and consensually!
Silicone Cuffs
The elasticity of the silicone allows for a smooth and comfortable cuffing experience. The ease of use is inviting for those new to bondage, and advantageous for experienced users in those more spontaneous moments (avoiding knots and buckles in the heat of it, or if knots and buckles are a challenge for you!).